Saturday 14 August 2021

Back into the heat, a visit, and finishes

What a difference a few days can make! We had a few days of cooler weather, and then the heat found its way back to us.  We desperately needed the rain so even though my day trip was cut short on Tuesday, I was quite happy for the rain.  It rained again Wednesday morning too.  By Friday though, the heat was on and this weekend's forecast is for 35C (95F) on both Saturday and Sunday.  But this heat wave will be short-lived (at least that's the current forecast) and we'll have cooler weather arriving by mid-week.  

A follow-up from my last post; the mechanic at my local garage determined the rattling I was hearing was from a loose bracket on the skid plate that covers the transmission and gas tank under my car.  He added a couple of screws to repair it, at least temporarily, and the cost was a mere $30.  I will need to replace the bracket at some point, but this garage doesn't carry such parts so I will likely have to take it into the dealership garage for a replacement.  

D and Eli spent some time with us, arriving Thursday and heading home on Friday after a couple of doctor's appointments for the little guy.  First up was an optometrist appointment - no significant issues as yet, though Eli does have astigmatism.  Not a surprise as it is a family trait.  The next appointment was with their family doctor.  Eli has some tendencies that may be signs of autism or attention deficit disorders: tip-toe walking, occasionally flapping his hands when stressed, and covering his ears because of noise levels.  Dr. J. has made a referral for Eli to be assessed though that won't likely happen for several months.

I saw evidence of this behaviour when we visited the museum on Thursday morning.  Eli was quite excited to meet Scotty, the tyrannosaurus rex whose bones were found near Eastend, Saskatchewan.  But when someone pushed the button to make the dinosaur roar, he covered his ears and wanted to get out of there as quickly as possible. We did manage to make the tour of the displays but it was a rush in an out of the museum in just a half hour.  Throughout our visit, his stress increased as he couldn't tolerate the sounds of birds and other animals in several displays and the number of other people in the space seemed to be overwhelming to him.  Once in the car, he settled down and was the loveable little boy I know so well. I think I understand why pre-K was difficult for him this past year with the chaos that occurs when a number of small people are in the same room.

An occupational therapist, K, has been visiting Eli and D on a weekly basis.  She's been working with Eli to help him transition from various tasks (desirable to less desirable) and helping D determine and set appropriate goals.  He can now put on his shoes without assistance, though they are often on the wrong foot.  (Doesn't seem to bother him in the least.)

K will work with the school too, to make Eli's time in school easier. Last year, when things got to be too much, he was sent to sit (alone) on a bench outside the classroom door.  He knew he was being punished and it certainly didn't help him integrate or learn.  This fall, we are anticipating he will have an assigned educational assistant to help direct his focus and divert his attention when needed, and K will be making recommendations for other options for dealing with his behaviour.  I'm hopeful he'll have a better experience this year too, because the teacher who basically gave up on him, has moved to another school. 

I share all this because I think it that mental health disorders are often stigmatized.  Children, like Eli, are branded as difficult, bratty, and their parents lazy or unable to control their children.  In reality, these children are often undiagnosed and without supports.  And I know personally, as a parent of a child who wasn't diagnosed until she was an adult, that finding help can be frustrating.  When D was young, I visited the school psychologist on an annual basis during her elementary years, seeking assistance.  On every occasion, I was informed I wasn't consistent enough as a parent, and all of her issues would be resolved if my parenting skills were improved.  Sadly, I assumed they were right and didn't fight further for my girl. Eli is fortunate because his mother is an incredible advocate for him.

One on one you couldn't meet a sweeter child.  Eli is incredibly smart, inquisitive and loving.  D has worked with him so that he can identify his own feelings and he demonstrates empathy for the feelings of others.  When I asked him not to do something, he asked me if it would make me angry or sad if I did it.  That he understands the nuances of those feelings at the age of four amazes me.  Unfortunately, when he is in a group setting, especially one that is busy or noisy, he is easily distracted and overwhelmed, and has a difficult time regulating his behaviour.  He needs, and deserves, the assistance of all the adults in his life to help him learn coping skills.  D has ordered noise cancelling headphones for him as well as a weighted stuffed animal.  The latter is meant to help him feel calm - as though he is being hugged or held.  

On a happier note, we visited the nearby park both days. The city put in new retaining walls last year and Eli has decided they are castles. Here he is sitting on the wall of his castle, fishing.  He found sticks for both of us so we could fish together.  Later he and his Princess mom "shot cannons" at each other across the walls.  He has such an imagination!

Before we leave the park, summer or winter, one of his favorite things to do is roll down the hill. With his stick of course!

Back to the regular scheduled programming - with the cooler and rainy weather early in the week, I spent some time playing in my craft room.  And I finally finished Eli's sweater.  I know I made it a bit large, but we couldn't convince him to try it on for G'ma so I'm not certain just how big it truly is.  He wasn't particularly excited about it.

He did however, like his new Christmas stocking.

I won't call it my best work, because I made the mistake of gluing the first tier of green felt down before ensuring where the other pieces would end the tree is off balance, and a little too low on the stocking.  I'm thinking I may add a few small snowflakes at the top above the star.  On the reverse is my very rustic rendition of Santa's photo, I'll let you use your own imagination.  

This little cart was a purchase from the dollar store.  I stained it, added some floral foam, a bit of moss, several small pumpkins and a few floral stems.  Everything can be removed and I can switch it out for the seasons. I'm already envisioning a pile of small wrapped presents and ribbons for Christmas.  

The last finish are these painted pumpkins (not the orange one).  The dollar store sells foam pumpkins.  I simply painted them with white chalk paint, dipped the stems in brown paint, used gold paint for the stripes, added a few leaves and popped the stem back in.  

I've been eyeing up the sheer volume of yarn in my stash.  It's time to start working my way through some of it.  I've started knitting a new market bag with some cotton yarn.  But that's just the first of many projects - I just have to decide what's next. There are several small bits of yarn for making scarves again this year, and I also have a couple of small wreath forms to make up.  The list never truly ends!

Sigh, just like housework.  Time for me to close off this post and get some vacuuming done.  In the 90 minutes or so I took to write this post, the temperature went from 15C (59F) to 31C (88F), so I won't be spending much time outdoors.  Good thing there are two footballs games being broadcast this evening. I'll plant my butt on the couch and knit.  Go Riders!

Have a great week ahead everyone!


  1. Your projects are just lovely.
    Eli is smart and healthy - he is good. Anything else he can work around or overcome. I always think that God makes no mistakes - so each of us is the way we are for a very special reason.
    Heck, who among us doesn't have something to work around and overcome?
    He is very fortunate to have the Mom and Gram he does!!!!!!

  2. It must be tough in a way deciphering what a child needs at that age, since he may not be able to understand or articulate it himself. Watch out for his teachers; they may not understand what's happening, either. Fortunately, Eli has you and D ready to help him whenever he needs it. I suspect that whatever problems he encounters, he will overcome, with his mum and grandma's help.

  3. My grandson has a significant sensory processing disorder. He has a hard time with crowds, loud noices, bright lights.

  4. I am so glad that Eli has such support and understanding from his Mom and you. He can't help but thrive.
    It was horrid how you were made to believe your child's behavior was all your fault. So glad we have come to a better understanding these days. Good thing his teacher is no longer there. She sounded like who you had to deal with.

  5. I have a good friend whose older son is autistic. She poured her heart and soul into helping him with social skills and she was such a strong advocate for him in the school setting. He is now an adult who has graduated from college, has a very good job that matches his math and computer skills, is married and owns his own home. So much has improved with understanding the needs of children with autism since I started my carreer almost fifty years ago. Yikes!! I just realized how long ago I started my career.

  6. I worked for the schoolboard for 27 years-all with children with 'behaviour' issues. The last 10 years I worked with autistic children from mild to severe. As soon as you described Eli's behaviour in the museum I thought he needs noise cancelling headphones. Great that D has ordered them. From everything you have said about Eli he is very high functioning. That's a great thing, he just has to learn how to harness and control all his energy. Something you may want to make with him is a 'pressure snake'. You take a mans tube sock, fill it with rice and tie a knot in the end. The weight helps to calm him when it is draped around his neck, over his shoulders or even on his lap when he is sitting. Can use markers to draw a funny face on it or whatever. There are lots of info on the internet that will give you lots of ideas to use with him. Good luck.

  7. Eli reminds me of my son when he was small. He would get so overstimulated and have these severe meltdowns and could not be consoled. He just had to cry it out. When he was almost four he received a diagnosis of sensory processing disorder. It finally made so much sense and we learned ways to help him learn to self-regulate and also what to do when things got too overstimulating for him. He is 16 now and does very well and is a great student. Your little Eli is such a cutie and he is so blessed to have so many wonderful adults in his corner.

  8. Lovely projects!! I think the stocking is perfect by the way.

    When I worked as an aide in the schools here I always worked with children that were on the spectrum, those with FAS, and those with OCD or ADHD. They were the most loving of children once you got to know them and they got to know you. Of course it took awhile, but I really enjoyed watching their faces light up when understanding came. I hope Eli gets a wonderful aide.

    God bless.

  9. My grandson is autistic and the flapping and ear covering is common as are the other symptoms. He is a happy boy by and large and is starting kindergarten now. He has an aide in the room. I am very interested in his travels through life and thank you for sharing him with ius. He is adorable, precious and I have loved every word and story.

  10. I'm glad that Eli has his mom and you for advocates, and I, too, think he will succeed and be just fine with supports in place. Our understanding of various disorders (for lack of a better word) has grown in leaps and bounds in recent decades; it surprises me that his teacher last year lacked some basic knowledge about what to look out for, how to act/react, etc. Good thing she's gone, for the sake of all children. (And pity any children with extra needs wherever she teaches now.)

  11. I wish all the best for little Eli. Between D and you, I believe you are doing the very best possible to help him adjust.
    You never cease to amaze me with your talent to see something and make a plan to improve it for decor or whatever. Plus, you follow through! I sometimes get whisps of ideas and that's as far as it gets. It would help to have a larger space to set things out and leave them out but, you still are my craft hero!

  12. Getting an early diagnosis is a key, sounds like you and your daughter are aware! That is a good thing! You have lots of projects going and that blue sweater is so pretty!


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